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It's Insecure Writer's Support Group time. The purpose of this group, led by Ninja Captain Alex, is to release fears into the world or give encouragement for those who are struggling. Writing can be tough and we need the support of each other.

Like always, I almost forgot if not for someone else's blog post mentioning the group.

Right now (although probably not by the time you read this) I'm sitting in my living room, watching Fact or Faked, and feeling lost. I am not a planner; I am a flat out panster. Fly by the seat of my pants. That makes planning very difficult for me. But having no plan can be very confusing. Often I feel lost. Am I doing all that I can for my books? Are there new marketing techniques I can try? Why is talking to people so hard?

That last question gets me the most. Word of mouth is a great way to sell books, but I am super shy and have a hard time talking to people. I have writing friends who have tons of book blogger friends. How do they do it? Well, they talk to them. But when I think of attempting saying hi, my thoughts get frazzled, my palms sweat, and I can't think. I am an introvert to the core. Interaction literally scares me. I don't know how to approach people - this is all online interaction, let's not even get in to how terrified I get of face to face conversation with someone I'm not friends with.

Crazy thing is once someone talks to me, I have no problem starting conversations or talking. It's that initial hump that I can't get over on my own. I even put in my twitter profile that I'm shy, but if you talk to me, I will talk back. Maybe I need a Dummies guide. How To Be An Extrovert for Introvert Dummies.


PS I have a giveaway going on so feel free to enter.
 


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03/06/2013 2:18pm

Hi!! {{waves}}
I tend toward shyness myself. The IWSG and A-Z has helped me break out of my shell, a bit. Reading and commenting on people's blogs is a good way to begin the conversation.
Jai <a href="http://jaileenq.blogspot.com/">Visiting from IWSG</a>

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03/06/2013 7:45pm

*Waves back* Hi! Thanks for stopping by.
I try to think of something to say whenever I read a blog post, converse a little.

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03/06/2013 5:20pm

I'm like you in most groups. With writers I do better. We all have something in common... books. Joining in IWSG is a good start.I agree with Jai that commenting on other blogs is a great step. The topic is right there - the post. :)

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03/06/2013 7:45pm

I guess I could consider the post a hello to me, get me talking. =)

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03/07/2013 8:57pm

I totally get what you're saying. Believe it or not, I am shy too. At least in new situations. (Now, once I'm comfortable, that's a whole different story!)
I also have an awful time pushing my books on people; it's not my nature. And you know what? I've decided that's all right. I'm just me. And the more comfortable I get with me, the more relaxed I am in the world.
*Nice to meet you!

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03/07/2013 9:17pm

It's a different story for me once I'm comfortable too. I've become fine with not pushing my book too. I try to find ways to promote it, but I don't worry to much about tweeting about it and stuff like that.
Lovely to meet you. =)

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